Many American teenagers expect to date several people before they settle down with one person, and they may view dating during their teenage years as primarily for fun.
In cities like Beijing and Shanghai, some young people follow Westernized dating customs.
Almost everywhere else in China, however, traditional attitudes to dating prevail. In traditional Chinese culture, boys and girls are introduced to each other in a group social setting.
A girl would only agree to go out on a date with a boy if she were willing to consider marriage.
If you’ve read a single article about dating apps lately, you are well primed to believe it’s the former. And is there any actual evidence to say that having a lot of sex through apps is, in fact, “bad”? Zhana Vrangalova, the renowned sex researcher who recently gave the TEDx talk “Is Casual Sex Bad for You? “There’s a trait known as sociosexual orientation, which measures how oriented a person is toward casual sex.
Take the viral piece by Nancy Jo Sales, “Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse,” in the current issue of The entire article functions as a doomsday warning against dating apps, which Sales claims offer only romantically impoverished and ultimately damaging interactions.
Expectations about gender roles are much more conservative in traditional Chinese culture than in American culture.
If an American boy goes out to dinner with a Chinese girl and does not pay for her meal, the locals will view him he as having lost "face" or social status and they will regard him as a poor dating candidate.
(Friends and family, if you could use these categories to identify your dating life then I will not have to ask awkward follow-up questions). If she doesn’t reply to your text, you don’t get upset. Sure, you can have fun, but the relationship has another purpose as well.
So for my own sake (and the sake of other nosy people like myself), I’ve developed 4 categories of dating to help clarify things and lessen the confusion surrounding dating. Dating to See Goal: Knowledge This type of dating is more intentional.
There are all sorts of people on Tinder, just like there are all sorts of people everywhere.”Sales, however, doesn’t quote a single guy who’s looking to form a relationship, nor a single woman who’s looking to hook up.