Once the conditions are satisfied, a judge will clear the defendant of the charges and dismiss the case.While Benda does not have a criminal record in Minnesota, the charges still show up in public records. In a hotel room two years ago after prom, Samuel J.Editor’s note: Emily is the author of The Catholic Girl’s Survival Guide for the Single Years. Just so we’re clear right up front, I’m not saying everyone should make a hard-and-fast rule to never stay up late talking to their honey or not kiss a guy until they’ve got a ring on their finger.
So with that list, you’re trying to get people to think about chastity differently? Too often we approach questions about chastity from a negative standpoint. That’s serious business – entertaining business, mind you, but not mere entertainment. At least for women, the more serious smooching we do, the more of our hearts we give. The rest of the reason is that such a question reveals we’re not thinking about sexual intimacy properly.
Our romantic culture generally consisted of hanging out with mates down the pub, doing some drinking, and then sort of somehow ending up with one of them and not really discussing the matter until six months in.
But with the ascent of online dating – which is reportedly now the way one in five relationships start – we have become a date-centric society, particularly in London where it seems that anyone who’s single is on Tinder.
Benda didn’t question his 17-year-old girlfriend when she took a naked picture of herself in the mirror on his cellphone. “I didn’t think.” Now, her former boyfriend is facing serious consequences.
The photo is a reflection of her and Benda, his hands covering her body. The girl later told a Dakota County judge that she had forgotten about the picture until police came to her house and asked about it. Benda was convicted of felony child-pornography possession and is awaiting sentencing.
When women talk to each other about dating, it often feels as though there’s an elephant in the room.