We figured flashing lights and photo booths, prizes and pinball, loud noises and lots of other kids would be a good distraction from “Dad has a girlfriend,” which also means: “Mom and Dad are not getting back together.” I normally Internet stalk my online dating connections pretty thoroughly. We decided to wait six months before my first meeting with his girls: a trip to the arcade at Castle Park in Sherman Oaks.I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.
A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
Here’s what to do: Your go/no-go window remains the third date, but the signals will be all new. My ex self-immolated when I joked about meeting his 6-year-old anytime before she was, say, old enough to drive. I treat my date’s offspring like feral, if adorable, animals—keeping my distance and letting them make the first move.
You now have to schedule sex around a third-party: the tyke. He slow-walked the intro since it reminded him his wife was never coming back and he was alone. And whether she calls you her BF or the plumber, just roll with it. And if he really hates you, but she doesn’t dump you, be flattered: She wants to keep you around. Ask only that the menagerie be respectful, with no name-calling, biting, or mud-slinging catapults.
With rugrats in the picture, there’s zero chance you’ll ever be the top person in this woman’s life—but that window of narcissism was short-lived anyway (if it existed at all).
I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.