magazine convened a panel of pickup artists and dating coaches to discuss the state of seduction.“Technology has changed, but the difference between men and women and the dating philosophy does not change,” co-author Sherrie Schneider said.Twenty-four hours later, those heartstrings are being twanged by demons – because your date hasn’t called you, and you haven’t called them, and you don’t know what to do about it.
In other cases, you may not be emotionally ready to date, especially if you’re still healing from a recent breakup.
(The study isn’t explicitly hetero-only, but most questions are framed in those terms.) Among the findings: About a third of single people think “it’s less intimidating” to ask someone out via text message.
(No gender difference.) Forty-six percent of singles get annoyed by a dating prospect who texts too frequently.
“There’s a very strong disconnect between men and women,” added self-described “romance artist” Zan Perrion.
“We’re all hyper-connected online and yet we’re fundamentally disconnected.” That gender essentialism may help sell books on how to decipher the behaviors of the “opposite” sex, but this is 2013—nobody buys books anymore.
Let your conscience be your guide, and make sure that irrational fear is not making your decisions for you.